It’s Mother’s Day and I want to take this minute to fully celebrate all of the mom’s that read this blog. You are amazing! You are doing a great job!  Your children love you even when you don’t feel amazing and don’t think you are doing a great job.


Now, hopefully you are getting some appreciation from your children and other family members as well.  You may even be getting gifts!  If my husband is reading this, the thing I most enjoy is a manicure (a few gift certificates to that nail shop next to the Dollar Store would be much appreciated).

You might prefer a massage, jewelry or flowers.  And hopefully your children draw you a lovely picture or make you something from their hearts.  Whatever it is, I hope you enjoy.

My Mother’s Day Gift To You

If you got left off the gift list or are still feeling like a less than rock-star Mom, then I have a special gift for you.  I have been working furiously on a special online parent support program called, “The Parenting PLAY Book” and the first Module is being released today.  And, it’s FREE!  Access it here.

Wait, what?

Did I just dare to tell you that you need “parenting education” on Mother’s Day of all days????

Mother’s Day Inspiration

Let me explain.  This course is all about using PLAY to create the most rock solid and supercharged relationship with your child possible.  You are already a great parent-this helps you be even better. And it’s fun!

It’s built around the idea that we all have a wish for our children.

What’s Your Parenting Wish?


My parenting wish is that my children will explore and experience the world in whatever way inspires them but that they will still be excited to come back and tell me all about it. And our yearly family vacations- forever. Jennifer Taylor, LCSW, RPT”

The Parenting PLAY Book takes that wish and turns it into a plan by revealing the secrets that play therapists use when working with children.  It’s designed for children that are good kids and parents that are good parents.

For parents that already play with their kids, it gives you practical skills to use play to help your child:

  • Build self-esteem
  • Be accountable for their actions and learn self-control
  • Reduce power struggles
  • Communicate their deepest wants and needs

And it reminds parents of ways to:

  • Teach children how to express their feelings
  • Set limits without being ‘the bad guy’
  • Offer choices that help your child learn to be more responsible
  • Offer encouragement instead of false praise


It uses the research compiled from years of a technique known as Child Parent Relationship Training (which we know works!).  This research shows that 30 minute play sessions are one of the most powerful ways to improve the parent child relationship.

And doing so just 30 minutes  once per week is enough to see dramatic results.  You can learn how to transform your relationship with your child into supercharged, therapeutic level play by taking some guidance from play therapy practices. And I am going to walk you through it step by step.

But I already play with my child?

Yes, you probably do. But during that time, are you teaching them a new skill? Are you participating in a structured activity like T-ball practice?  While neither of those things are overly detrimental to your child, they do not qualify as unstructured one on one time.

Not to say that they are bad…just to say that there needs to be some balance. Structured play sessions can bring out a child’s inner anxiety over performance or they can highlight low self esteem issues.   Unstructured play sessions provide the balance that will focus on connecting with your child regardless of their performance at any given task.


Why is this type of play so powerful?

Because the thing that I hear most often from children is that they wish their parents would spend more time with them. They want your attention. And when they get it routinely in a way that allows them to just be themselves without any expectations, they feel better about who they are. And then something magical happens…they behave better.

It’s true, children who feel good about themselves have less negative attention seeking behaviors. And parents get a benefit too. You get to enjoy your children in a whole new way. You usually learn something new about them. And best of all. It’s free!

Free Access to Module 1 of The Parenting PLAY Book

So, without insulting your current state of parenting, I am giving you a plan that will help you create, maintain or supercharge your relationship with your child.  Module 1 is an introductory two week challenge to get your primed for the rest of the material to come.

What You Get (All For FREE)








Complete access to Module 1 of The Parenting PLAY Book for life!

Motivational Emails Throughout the next 2 weeks with handouts for each lesson

This totals 40 full color pages!

Access to all 6 Recorded Instructional Videos

  • The Pep Talk
  • Is My Kid Normal?
  • If My Child is Normal, then is it me?
  • Walk (and Talk) Like a Play Therapist
  • The Play Plan
  • A Time to Play & A Time To Rest Activities

Access to the Exclusive closed Facebook Group “The Parenting PLAY Book VIP Locker Room”

Exclusive Discounts to Module 2 (COMING SOON): Feelings Film Review

Discounts on the Complete 8 Week Program (COMING SOON)

Gift Yourself

It feels good to be a good mom.  This course is a no judgment, fully supportive program that builds your confidence and reduces that awful “mom guilt.” We all have it.  Oh-and it’s not “advice.”

This program fits around YOU.  I don’t tell you HOW to parent.  What I show you is how to take your current parenting strengths and use them to your advantage in your daily interactions!

I am just giving you some insider secretes on how to use PLAY to its fullest potential.

Ready to join me?

You can join ANYTIME.  Access is free for LIFE and you can use do the lessons at any time from anywhere.  It’s totally self-paced and each lesson is less than 15 minutes of your time each day.

Click below to get access to all of the details!

Happy Mother’s Day

(Oh, and Dad’s, Grandpa’s, Uncles, Godfathers-don’t feel left out!  This gift applies to you too.  Join the party… the more, the merrier).

And as always,


Why a white daisy?

Apparently, when people  are asked to draw a flower, the first one that comes to mind for a majority of people is the daisy shape.   This single flower (just the flower part without the stem or any leaves and on a solid black background) was show to study participants after being shown a high-arousal negative image. Examples of high-arousal negative images include awful things like violence, injuries and car crashes.  Two trials were conducted:  in the first subjects were shown a high arousal image and then either a) the flower image b) a mosaic of fragments of the flower image or c) a visual fixation point.  In the second trial, the high arousal image was followed by either a) the flower image, b) a chair (deemed a neutral image) or c) a blue sky with clouds (deemed a positive non-floral image).   Systolic and diastolic blood pressure readings were taken throughout the experiments.  

As expected, mean blood pressure was lower when participants viewed the flower versus the fixation point or the mosaic flower,  but what was unexpected is that the flower image actually reduced mean blood pressure to a level lower than the baseline.  Both the flower image and the blue sky had a similar positive impact in changing mood from negative to positive (with the blue sky having the most overall impact).  However, only the flower (not the sky) caused a reduction in mean blood pressure.  It was determined that viewing a simple flower image could in fact change a negative mood into a more positive one and also decrease blood pressure. 

The power of the single flower image was then studied in regards to salivary cortisol levels.  During this study, the high-arousal images were once again paired with the flower image, the flower fragment mosaic or the fixation point.  Once again, only the flower image was shown to significantly decrease stress during the recovery phase. One final examination looked at fMRI images of the brain during these conditions.  Through this imagery it was discovered that the flower image was effective in decreasing the amygdala-hippocampus activation that occurred after viewing the high arousal images. Researchers speculated that the flower image was a distraction tool that was helped prevent the recall of the stressful images.  

The brief viewing of this single flower image was shown to be effective at reducing negative emotions and created better functioning of both the cardiovascular and endocrine systems! Having such a simple tool available to help reduce stress and regulate unpleasant emotions and is one possible tool for interrupting ruminating thoughts or unpleasant flashbacks.  

About the Author Jen Taylor

Jennifer Taylor, LCSW, RPT is an experienced child and family therapist and public speaker who specializes in trauma, ADHD, and conduct problems. Discover more about her diverse clinical background and family. Reach out to Jennifer with questions or comments by emailing at

Jennifer Taylor, LCSW, RPT is an experienced child and family therapist and public speaker who specializes in trauma, ADHD, and conduct problems. Discover more about her diverse clinical background and family. Reach out to Jennifer with questions or comments by emailing at

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