July 19, 2022

Are you successful because you are crushing the competition?


Or because you are doing something really hard and not giving up?

This weekend I ran the 5k DC Superhero Race at Six Flags America  with a few friends

 
We all finished at different times.


We all got medals and bananas at the finish line.

The person that finished first ran 3.1 miles in
19 minutes and 5 seconds.


The last person to finish crossed the line after
one hour and thirty five minutes.

I am inspired by both of them!

Jen Taylor
LCSW-C, RPT-S

Lessons from a 5k Race

Here's why I love running races:
The person that finished first ran 3.1 miles in
19 minutes and 5 seconds.
The last person to finish crossed the line after
one hour and thirty five minutes.

I am inspired by both of them!

6 minute miles?  WHOA: I'm inspired by what is possible.
(and therefore... what crazy thing is possible for me?)

90 minutes to walk 3 miles?  WOW:  I'm inspired because you showed up and you didn't quit.
(and therefore, what challenge seems too hard but is actually possible if I just keep going long enough?)

I heard people talk about beating their personal records for time.
I also heard people say "I never knew I could walk that far."

One girl ran in high-heeled boots!

Measure Success Based On Your Own Personal Goals

Not how everyone else is doing

We criticize participation trophies and the
"everyone gets a prize" mentality.
But, really....
I like medals (and bananas).
And... showing up and finishing is
worthy of a celebration!

You can measure success by going a longer distance than you normally do; or by pushing your pace a bit faster or by doing something for the FIRST time!
Or, you can have a bad day and cramp up and need to walk. 
Or trip and fall on the course. 
Or, push through a migraine or a thunderstorm.
You can measure success by how you overcame adversity and pushed through something that felt impossible.

Either way, you deserve a medal.

Success is not measured by the time on the scoreboard -
It's the process that you go through.
It's the story that you tell yourself along the way.

And it all needs to be celebrated.
Whatever you're going through right now -
celebrate it.
Crushing it?  AWESOME. Keep Going!
Does the finish line feel miles away?  YEP.  Keep going!

High-fives and medals for showing up and doing you when things are easy AND especially when things feel hard.

Journal Exercise for Measuring Success

Consider the Firsts and the Lasts

What have you recently done for the FIRST time?

Where are you winning and feeling successful?

When was the LAST time that you kept going through a struggle?

What is hard for you but you want to keep going?


Hold space for all of those things and draw yourself a medal.

You've earned it!

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Jennifer Taylor, LCSW, RPT is an experienced child and family therapist and public speaker who specializes in trauma, ADHD, and conduct problems. Discover more about her diverse clinical background and family. Reach out to Jennifer with questions or comments by emailing at info@jentaylorplaytherapy.com

Jennifer Taylor, LCSW, RPT is an experienced child and family therapist and public speaker who specializes in trauma, ADHD, and conduct problems. Discover more about her diverse clinical background and family. Reach out to Jennifer with questions or comments by emailing at info@jentaylorplaytherapy.com

Jennifer Taylor, LCSW, RPT is an experienced child and family therapist and public speaker who specializes in trauma, ADHD, and conduct problems. Discover more about her diverse clinical background and family. Reach out to Jennifer with questions or comments by emailing at info@jentaylorplaytherapy.com

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